What Do Women Really Want?

The opposite sex often seems like an unsolvable puzzle, but we are here to make putting the pieces together easier. Men and women, for the most part, have the same basic needs in a relationship-- attraction, companionship and ultimately to feel loved. However, our wants are where the differences show up – gentleman, this one is for you, so pay attention and take some mental notes.

The age-old question, “what do women want?” is something most men want an easy answer to - and that’s the problem, there isn’t just one quick and easy answer. No two women are the same, and so often when shifting from an old relationship, to a new relationship, your approach will need to change. First, make sure you have a good understanding of the woman that you are with now. And to do so, start with the basics of how women give and receive love by getting to know the 5 love languages and identifying your partners. Need a refresher on the 5 Love Languages? Check out our blog Speaking Their Language.

Now that you figured out your special ladies love language, apply them to the other important, yet basic actions:

Make her feel special.

Every woman deserves to feel special, so make her feel special. For example, flirting isn’t just to be used during your initial interactions. There is nothing more exciting than butterflies and sparks – keep them alive throughout your relationship! Flirt with her, be playful and give her reasons to feel confident in your relationship. Women want to feel good about themselves and what will help boost this feeling is seeing that you genuinely want and care about them.

Compliments of sincerity, not just on her looks, but on the things that she does and the way she makes you feel will reinforce how much she means to you.

Let her in.

Be open with her – let her know how you are feeling, while there may be some fun in “the chase” – it can get old. Talk to her about things that are going on in your life – sharing part of yourself with her will allow her to feel more emotionally connected to you. Women value emotional connection more than men, so allowing yourself to be vulnerable and emotional with her can help you take your relationship to the next level.

Being emotional also shows your strength. Strength that you can express and own your feelings - it shows confidence and bravery to be vulnerable. It also shows her that you trust her and feel comforted by her. This will go a long way for your relationship and while for men, sharing emotions may feel off at first, it tends to make women fall faster.

Be Present.

Are you making time for her during the day-to-day? Being present with your significant other means more than just physically being with them. It means wanting to incorporate each other into your day-to-day lives. Keep in mind this can be as simple as running errands together, or knowing details about what is going on in their lives - their friends, family and work life.

One of the most important things you can do to be present in your relationship is to listen. Listening to your partner will make it easier to show up for them when and how they need you to. Plus, there is nothing more attractive than a guy that listens. So, give her attention and spend quality time with her, doing all of this will show her you care for her.

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When your relationship is important to you, and you are wanting to show your partner how much they mean to you, you now have the tips and know how to start building a strong foundation for your relationship. This will allow you to show-up as the best partner that you can be.