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Successful first date - check!
What’s next? Ahh yes, the quintessential question that makes even the most confident feel butterflies… “How long should I wait to follow up?”
The answer: Do what feels right.
Contrary to popular belief, there is no set rule on when you should or should not follow up after a first date. If you had a great time and would like to see them again, why wait? Let them know your intentions and keep the momentum going, especially if sparks were flying.
Following up can be easy if you don’t overthink it...and here are 3 ways to keep it simple:
1. Ending the date showing interest.
Time flies when you’re having fun...and even though you are having a good time and don’t want it to end, reality always sets in. When a date feels right, you know it, so it’s easy to jump to planning a second date. The end of your first date is the perfect opportunity! It can be a natural part of the conversation when you are grabbing the tab or walking to your cars, and it can be as simple as “I had a lot of fun tonight, we should do it again sometime.” At that point you have two choices, you can allude to connecting later that week to set something up OR you can put something on the books right then and there! By talking about a second date, right away you know there is interest in continuing to get to know each other more. Whew - sigh of relief! And if it’s that easy, it might just be meant to be.
And if If you’re not sure if there is chemistry, the best thing you can do is exchange #’s and try a 2nd date. This way no first date jitters are invited and sparks could have a chance to fly.
2. The follow up call.
You exchanged numbers, but didn’t feel the timing was just right to set the second date. In this case, a personal call is the next best thing! Calling, just like asking in person, shows maturity, confidence and courage - all attractive attributes!. The fact that you are taking a risk and putting yourself out there will make someone feel special. Interaction over the phone will continue to give you both a chance to get to know each other better. Plus, there is nothing better than a great conversation as texts are great when you know someone, but in the beginning could leave room for interpretation.
3. The follow up text.
Again, if you exchanged numbers with your date, but are feeling a little shy about following up, a simple “let me know when you get home safely” text at the end of the night or a quick message the next day saying, “I had a great time last night… would love to do it again sometime” can go a long way and get the conversation started. From there, you could communicate your interest in a second date by sending them a few ideas of things you could do...or find a good time to talk.
Keep in mind, texting should be quick and easy, not a full conversation. When you’re wanting to get to know someone better, our best advice is to have an actual conversation and set that second date.
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Remember the point is getting that second date. So, if you don’t ask, you’ll never know. Our best advice is to keep it simple and always work towards your desired outcome.
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